Ways to Last Longer In Bed

Could Viagra help you last longer in bed? The latest research published in theJournal of Sexual Medication seems to think so.

Researchers reviewed 14 studies that monitored the effects phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors—drugs for erectile dysfunction like Viagra and Levitra—had on men who experience premature ejaculation (PE). Eleven of the studies showed medication helped extend the length of the time they could go before reaching orgasm.

To perform during your big debut, practice makes perfect.

So does this mean that science has found the magic pill for helping you go all night? Not exactly.

The researchers stress that although this correlation was found, it’s hard to determine whether or not the ED medication was actually responsible for the delay in orgasm since a majority of the studies did not compare the results against a placebo.

If you’re looking to buy some time before reaching climax, rather than hitting up your doctor for meds, check out the following tips.

Stop-Start Technique
You need to get used to building your arousal to where you’re almost at that point of no return, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sex researcher at Indiana University and author of Great in Bed. Start stimulation, but as soon as you feel you’re getting too aroused, simply pause for a brief moment—Herbenick recommends 5 to 10 seconds—and let your arousal subside. After repeating this technique a few times, feel free to release.

Rely On Rubbers Another useful technique for pushing back your ejaculatory response is to wear a desensitizing condom,. These products contain the desensitizing lubricant benzocaine, so it will buy you a few more minutes in the sack. But something to keep in mind: Make sure you’re not putting the condom on inside out, otherwise the Benzocaine will end up inside her vagina, (And if you’re still searching for other alternatives to battle this buzz kill,
Squeeze Technique
As soon as you feel you’re getting close, stop stimulation and squeeze right below the head of your penis, says Herbenick. It’s best to focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis—because this will temporarily represses your ejaculatory response. Once your arousal has died down, repeat a few more times before reaching climax, 

How To Be GREAT in Bed

It’s good to be good. Good at poker, good at your job, a good dad. Good at anything is usually good enough.

Except in bed. In bed, we all want to be great.

Get ready to blow her mind.

Don’t Treat Her Breast Like a Bullseye. Touching her breasts is obviously a go-to move in the sack, but you have to make sure you’re doing it right. Don’t go straight for the nipple, says Herbenick. “The nipple is very much like the clitoris, it’s very sensitive and loves attention, but you don’t want to touch it all the time,” says Herbenick. “Keep in mind that sensitive doesn’t always mean ‘touch there first.’” Instead, pay attention to the tops of her breasts first (above the nipple), followed by the bottoms, the sides, and then the nipples. Many people don’t realize that the tops of the breasts are actually the most sensitive part of the breast, says Herbenick. Lick it. Nibble it. Caress it.

Compliment Her Goods. “Our studies have shown that women who are more comfortable with their genitals not only more open to receiving oral sex, but they enjoy it more, they orgasm more, and they’re just more sex positive all around,” . So next time you’re spending some time below the belt, tell her how much you love the way she looks, tastes, feels—whatever you choose. It’ll benefit the both of you in the long run.

Heat Things Up. “Generally speaking, I think that people know they should engage in foreplay first, but I don’t think many people always know what it actually is,” says Herbenick. Heading straight for the clitoris is not foreplay—in fact, many women prefer to be aroused before you even head to that area, says Herbenick. So before you even strip down and get to business, make use of your time. Caress her skin. Help each other undress. Explore and kiss other sensitive areas of the body—her neck, ears, and inner thighs. When you get aroused, your body actually changes the way it experiences touch, says Herbenick. So she’ll get more pleasure from your touch if you make sure she’s warmed up first.

Go Beyond the Clit. Don’t limit yourself (and her pleasure) to her clitoris. For guys who are looking to go above and beyond, the G-spot and AFE zone (anterior frontal erogenous zone) are great places to start, says Herbenick. Her G-spot can be found several inches inside the vagina, located on the front wall (the side that her belly button is on), says Herbenick. The AFE zone (also on the front wall) is up several inches behind the G-spot. “Although there isn’t any concrete scientific research to confirm the AFE zone exists, it doesn’t mean it’s not pleasurable for some people,” says Herbenick. So for those who are looking to score brownie points, Herbenick says that your best bet for finding her hot spot would be deep fingering and deep sexual positions. Need some suggestions?

And if you’re still hungry for more tips on how to go above and beyond in the sack, you can check out the rest of Herbenick’s advice in her new book, http://www.fitnessnhealths.com/

February Must-Haves: Look Great on a Date

Just when you thought you were done with hectic holidays, February creeps up on you with the most stressful one of all: Valentine’s Day. Sure, it’s nice to show appreciation for the lucky lady in your life, but let’s face it, there’s a lot of pressure. You can’t wear any ol’ T-shirt and you already maxed out her wishlist for Christmas. Stop plotting Cupid’s death and relax. We have everything you need to make it through the season of amore. And on the bright side, once you invest in a few key pieces, you’ll have a go-to date look for years to come. 

Dark Jeans

Dinner dates are awkward as it is. So why betray your no-fail blues in favor of something uncomfortable? Besides, if you show up in full suit, she’ll think you’re trying too hard. Opt for dark jeans, which are dressy enough for a nice dinner, but still laid-back, comfortable, and you.

Tailored Jacket

Dress up your jeans with a fitted blazer. This herringbone tweed one from Tommy Hilfiger has a touch-worthy texture, double-vented back, and notched collar for a look that’s sure to impress.

Patterned Pocket Square

Leave your tie at the office and dress like a player with a hip pocket square instead. A pattern shows that you pay attention to the finer points of fashion—and that you know how to have fun. Bonus if it’s red. A University of Rochester study found that women are more attracted to men wearing the fierce hue, presumably because of its association with power.

Winning Wingtips

It’s just as true as their love of chocolate; women notice your shoes. Sporting kicks with striking soles, bold stitching, or colorful laces will earn major style points from the fairer sex. These wingtips from Cole Haan are unique enough to make a statement, but not so loud that they scream look at me. After all, she wouldn’t want your shoes to distract from her slinky black dress.

Full Flask

If you won’t say it, we will. No one actually likes Valentine’s Day. She probably feels the pressure, too. Solution: Split a flask of booze while watching The Vow. Go ahead—take an extra swig. You’ve earned it. Even knockout Rachel McAdams can’t compensate for the inevitable plot lines of a rom-com.

Condom Case

Because you're prepared . . . and optimistic.

Daring Timepiece

Women like jewelry—even men's jewelry, so she's apt to notice your watch. This chronograph from TAG Heuer, which has a blue alligator strap and bold square face, will show off your fearless style and fine taste.

Something Special

Sure, diamonds last forever, but you don’t know if your relationship will. These delicate pearl earrings, designed by Veto, are just as classy as some bling—but they won’t break the bank.

Gourmet Chocolate

There’s nothing really wrong with Russell Stover caramels—except that she probably received a box from every zit-faced teenager back in high school. (She may have thrown out the included teddy bears, but the pain remains.) Out-do her ex boyfriends with gourmet chocolate from La Maison du Chocolat. The truffles are infused with exotic spices from Trinidad, Cambodia, and Madascar, which shows that your taste extends beyond the Walgreen’s candy aisle.

Slim-Fit Dress Shirt

“Many guys wear shirts that are too big for them—and it isn’t flattering,” says image consultant, Lauren Solomon. A slim-fitting shirt—note: not tight —shows confidence and clout. This one from Banana Republic has an added bonus: wrinkle-free technology ensures that it won't need ironing.

Luxe Luggage

Sick of the same ol’ Valentine’s Day routine? Spice it up with an exciting weekend getaway. Surprise her with this Rimowa suitcase and hide your travel itinerary inside. Bonus: the bright red color ensures that she won’t miss it at baggage claim.

Ways to Get That Girl

Revelations on love, sex from  http://www.fitnessnhealths.com/ 

Employ the two-kiss strategy.

The first one is to gauge my interest; keep it short and sweet. If I pull back, then it's not time yet--no harm, no foul. But if I linger close, waiting for more, you have the all-clear. Now kiss me in a way that will change my life.

You came to this place to hang out with your friends...

We met. Now I'm one of your friends. Keep this vibe in mind; it will give me time to decide if I want to be something more.

Offer to cook.

I'll really be impressed if you can teach me something in the kitchen I haven't seen yet.

I like it when you stare, especially if I'm naked.

It makes me feel dirty. In a good way.

Talk less. Kiss more.

It's counterintuitive; I love to talk. But I need a break from hearing my own voice.

I'm pretty sure you still have cell reception on your business trip.

If you don't check in at least once, I'll assume you're doing something you shouldn't be.

Do good deeds for strangers.

When you forgive a server's mistake, smile at a tired bank teller, or offer your train seat to a pregnant woman, you become an instant alpha male in my eyes.

Don't be afraid to wear your glasses.

It makes role-playing that much easier when you're already wearing part of the shy-accountant costume.

If you ever meet my ex, act civilized.

I traded him for an upgrade, and I don't want to be proved wrong.

Listening is to women what oral sex is to men: Proof that you really care.

Remember my favorite ice cream flavor, my childhood best friend's name, where my little brother goes to college--even if you have to take notes.

Texting is great for flirting, but...

when it comes time to ask me out, I need to hear your voice. No emoticons allowed.

Don't sit on anything while you're naked.

It kind of grosses me out.

Share a secret that shows me your sensitive side...

...even if you have to embellish your discomfort in confessing. That mild embarrassment only endears you to me. "Don't tell my guy friends," you'll whisper, "

At a restaurant, give me the seat with the view.

I sit facing the action, you sit facing me. Get it? There's no reason for you to be looking anywhere else.

Plan a surprise party for me. At least once.

Make it a big deal. Invite all my friends. That's why Facebook was invented anyway.

Bring me something from your next trip.

Just one small thing. I'll keep it forever.

If you have something beautiful delivered to my office...

...I will sext you.

Give the perfect hug.

It lasts about 3 seconds longer than you think it should. Embrace me.

Tell me your 5-year plan.

Don't have one? Maybe it's time to make one. I feel more confident about a man who prepares for the future but lives for the moment. Your plan doesn't have to involve me right now, but it should have some room for me to imagine squeezing myself in.

Six magic words:

"I can't wait to see you." If you're excited, I'm excited. And if I'm already excited, that's less work for you in the long run.

The faster you can catch a bartender's attention...

...the more respect I have for you.

Don't tell me I look like someone famous.

Chances are I've already heard it. If you want to impress me, compare me to someone obscure but beautiful--"Wow, you remind me of Emilia Clarke." Now I have to engage you in conversation: "Who's that?" (Daenerys Targaryen from Game of Thrones.) Or I'll Google her at work and then glow all day. Either way you win.

Buy better boxers.

You should really spend more money on your underwear.

I check your Facebook wall...

...every day to see who else is flirting with you, and whether you've changed your relationship status.

Do nice stuff for me in front of my friends.

It makes it harder for them to talk smack about you when you leave.

Sometimes I feel as if I have multiple personalities.

Adjust yours accordingly.

You love receiving oral sex no matter what.

I love receiving oral sex, but only when I can actually relax and not worry if your jaw is tired, or if I taste weird, or if you're really enjoying it. So even when my pants are off, you still have to keep seducing me. Tell me you like what I've done with the place. And then prove it.

Let's do something out of the ordinary.

If my first date with you is the last first date I ever have, it had better stand out.

I like the thought of grabbing your tie and pulling you in for a kiss.

And just watching you open your top button and loosen that tie puts me in the mood. I don't care if yu work in a casual office. Wear one occasionally.

If you notice that my boots need reheeling...

...that my closet door squeaks, or that my watch needs a new battery, take care of it--without being asked. Your fixing something is like my initiating sex; it makes both of our lives a whole lot easier.

Write a song for me...

...and you've got a card you can play for the rest of my life. "I wrote a song for you, honey." Game over.

A fallback compliment that always makes me smile?

"I'm so lucky to have you." It seems authentic because you're talking about your own feelings.

If you're lousy on the dance floor...

...I'll assume you're lousy in bed. So fix that. You don't have to be Justin Timberlake to do it right; slow, controlled, and rhythmic is just fine. If you're self-conscious about your dancing, ask a female friend to help you with the basics.

Would you move into a new house without exploring every room?

My body is that house; you don't know me until you've kissed every inch of me.

All single women fear being used for sex.

So reassure me with a simple "You're great. You know that?" (If it's delivered within an hour of orgasm, it doesn't count.)